One Family's Journey through " Trials, Triump's & The Teen Years"...

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Thursday, January 29, 2009

Twitter Schmitter....& Other Random Thoughts!!

Okay people, what is this "Twitter" you speak of? I have checked it out & just don't get what all the fuss is about... All I can figure out is that you post what your doing right at that moment, but isn't that what we do on facebook? (If you have facebook, whats your name on there, mine is " Leah M. Allen" feel free to add me...)
Also, on twitter its seemingly not a community, its like this random screen where you are only connected to , you? What fun is that? Please enlighten me!!

Also, are there any of you that have teen girls & had a terrible time with them, & are now back on track w/ a good relationship?? ( need encouragement!!) It's sometimes (often) feels like we won't ever recover from this time in her life. And as a parent, you can't help but think that it's something your doing wrong & you just want to fix it.. Your never prepared for this child you know & love so deeply,to turn into this person you don't even like or enjoy being around.( I'm just being honest.) And you certainly don't have a peace about where this child's bad choices & behavior will lead them... No one & nothing prepares you for what has become the hardest season of my entire life. I really miss her .
Lastly, I have found out about this precious family (from another bloggy girl friend whom I have grown to dearly love, Elaine @ Matters of the heart, listed on my blog roll).
The
Macks desperately need our prayer's. Please stop over & see whats going on in their precious family, I'm certain you wont regret it.
Thanks for reading gang, & even if your just a typical lurker, please share your 2 cents with me!!
I will be away this weekend @ a much needed Women's retreat, but I will receive all of your comments right to my cell, ( which I love getting!!) & I will come in and check you all out as soon as I return ;)
Have a fabulous weekend, & stay warm!!
LYLAS/B ♥ LA

26 comments:

chacha said...

I remember being a bit of a pain in the rump as a teenager, though I think you probably have a little more tumultuous relationship that I did with my mother. Honestly, it took me probably until I was 23 or 24 to really "grow up" and have an easy relationship with my parents - now I actually like having them around (though the husband probably would beg to differ on his end).


Twitter? It's fun, at least to me, because you can just wrote one sentence quips rather than a whole stinkin' post. That and you can send text messages and it posts to twitter (and you can sign up to get your friends twitter updates as well, via text, I believe).

Valarie Lea said...

We really need to talk, and I can't get all of it in an e.mail. Switching over to facebook to talk to you.

Betty said...

I just joined twitter and don´t know if I like it yet. It is true what you write, that it´s almost the same as the facebook status´s. But what I like about twitter is that I have chosen my followers very carefuly and those that follow me, we do interact with each other. It´s almost like texting with a whole bunch of people and whoever feels like it can answer you. So for now, I´m going to stay.
About the teen´s. It is a hard time for them to grow up, but don´t give up. Someday those words you preach them will "sink in"!

Ali said...

I'm on Twitter and can see how it would be fun (like Betty said, group texting while all watching the same tv show or something sounds cool) but I haven't twittered since November!

I was an awful teenager. Very moody and looking back, very depressed. Mom wanted me to see a dr because I was a PAIN to live with (moody, sarcastic, etc) but I'd cry "I'll do better!" I wish she could've slipped some prozac into my food without me knowing. Good luck:)

Dr. Wifey said...

sorry you are having a difficult time with your daughter. i can't speak from the viewpoint of a parent, but from a sibling. i watched my sister turn into someone no one could stand to be around. she got into drugs and other thing. nearly made my parents have a breakdown. the only thing that helped - time and growing up. it took her many years to mature and realize her own actions. now my parents are going through the some rough times with my little brother. he used to be so close to me, but now it is like i do not like him at all. how he acts disturbs me. it is so sad, but as i tell my mom, he just has to grow up and mature. and all we can do is pray for him, that he does not make too many BAD decisions in the meantime

Traci said...

I KNOW exactly what you mean....sometimes I feel all alone because I don't have friends w/ children my age...they are all younger. I just know that one day, I'll be THEIR sounding board and I'll be able to say...been there and done that!!!

I'll try to hit you on facebook....

kel said...

I don't get twitter... at all!

I remember being a complete monster to my mom, and now we are best, best friends. There is hope!

Katie@ThisCrazyLife said...

Okay I was catching up on older posts and I just read the one about Aunt Jodi and I am so sad. I too must have been the last to know. I love that show and now it just gave me a whole other perspective. Now I don't know what to think.

Kam said...

I'm with you...don't even care to Twitter. Anyone who wants to know what I'm doing every minute of the days scares me!

Enjoy your retreat! And hang in there...things will get better with your daughter!

Love ya~

Tabitha Blue said...

I'l definitely be praying for that family!!! Have a WONDERFUL trip and a great time!! All mom's can use a little time away. Enjoy it!

Emily said...

i think there were several times when I was a teenage when I was a far from best friends with my mom and now we talk all the time and she is one of my best friends:)
I LOVE your house! sooo adorable!

Confessions of A Mississippi Mom said...

Girl, I'm sorry to hear the problems you're having with your daughter. I wished I could give some advice but I wasn't an angel for my parent's and I'm sure my daughter want be either... we can just hope for the best..

Oh and this twittering, everyone is doing it, I need to join LAWD!!!

HeatherPride said...

I hope you get back on track with your daughter soon. I am still praying for you.

Aleta said...

I looked up Twitter and I'm as lost as you. Oh and I'm on Facebook - under Aleta O'Brien. As for teens - I don't have any children, but I know my Mom and I went through some stressful times. I adore her now and cherish her all the more for everything we went through. Hang in there. I'm new to your blog, just wanted to say "hi"

Elaine said...

I hope you are having a great time... Thanks for posting about Baby Cora,how sad huh?

As far as the girl thing. I just remember being that way with my Mom, and now I can't live without her. I am scared to go through all that, when Goose gets older too. With hope, God gives strength.

By the way, our birthdays are four days apart. Wow...

Liz said...

Not into Twitter. I agree with you on that one.

I am not a parent but I was a difficult teenager. I did not get a long with me mother at all. When I got into my 20s it all changed. We have a good relationship now. Hang in there.... it will get better.

lagirl said...

I'm sending lots of love and some encouragement your way. I'm certainly no expert, but I have an adult daughter (and a 14 yr old). We went through some VERY difficult times with our oldest daughter when she was a teen. AT times I just didn't think there was any hope, and she just couldn't seem to get the fact that there were "consequence to her actions". Sometimes it was just a matter of keeping her safe & out of trouble for the moment. We just took it "day by day"...Fast forward ahead. She's married and the mom of 3 little girls and living a life that makes me so proud and THANKFUL!! Don't despair. Hang tough, eventually the hormones will level off and the peer pressure will decrease and you'll be amazed at what a wonderful girl you've raised. It will happen. (HUGS)

Janet said...

Girl...I sent you an award! You rock!

Tanya said...

I am so glad that you posted about your daughter. I am in a similar place. My husband and I have gone through a lot with my 19 year old girl over the past four years. I am constantly reminded to hold onto God's promises and that she belongs to Him completely. He knows how to love her, get her attention and her heart in ways that we could never fathom! I see small moments of hope and I hold onto those. Right about the time that you want to give up is when you should get stubborn and dig in. Keep loving even though your heart is broken (loving but not enabling bad choices) and keep speaking the truth into her life and praying for her heart and soul to belong to her Creator and Father. You are right to ask for encouragement because it's a very difficult road when it seems like everyone else has a daughter that can make good choices! (my experience anyway!) Keep going, you'll get through it and there will be a blessed outcome.

.Keli. said...

I was a crab butt as a teenager alot! I also moved out 6 times! Did I just totally admit that to Blog World! You and she will get through this!!! You know I have a teen son, he'll be 18 next week. It's totally different than having a girl but it's kinda the same. He's got an attitude!! I will keep praying that you regain the relationship with your girl! I know you will! Just remember she loves you!!! I do too! : )

And the whole Twitter thing? Come on girl, get with it! It's fun! Get hooked up and you will have tons of followers! Including me & Ang! xo

Maria said...

And this to shall pass.....I love my Mom. She is my closest friend next to my Hubby. She has been my rock. We had a few rough years when I was younger. Now looking back I was know I was looking for direction, but at the same time didn't want to admit my Mom was right. It's a tough age when you are trying to figure out who you are, but "think" you don't want to be "like them". You are in my prayers. Just remember to keep loving her no matter what.

Jill said...

I was a horrible teenager and gave my mom hell. But now I must say we are the bestest of friends and I wish I could make it up to her for all the trouble I put her through! I hope things get better between you and your daughter! I hope you have a happy ending like I did!

Jo said...

Thanks for stopping by and visiting. It's nice to meet you!

I don't have time for additional forms of communication ~ home phone, cell phone and email are enough for me.

I'm right there with you on the teenage daughter "stage" ~ ugh! My new stand is until you start doing for me, I will be doing much less for you ~ somewhat like a mini strike on my part. We'll see how it goes.

Enjoy your weekend,
Jo :)

Carrie said...

Twitter is fun but nothing major to me. I completely understand about the teenage daughter thing I have a fifteen year old that breaks my heart weekly. I just pray that one day she will thank me for being a pain in her butt. I am on facebook too but don't know what I am doing I will look for you!

Hugs Carrie

mayberry said...

Hey chick! I tagged you!

WPMomOf2 (jen) said...

I do use twitter, and Facebook...(BTW, I am giving away a pair of $80 sunglasses on my blog this week so come check it out if you get a second).