Our family's journey, & all the bumps & bruises along the way...

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Monday, February 23, 2009

Bink Blink Blink....


Thats what my cursor is doing as Im sitting here trying to figure out what to blog about...
Do you ever have those times when you have so much going on all at once and yet you can't even think of anything to say... No?? Me neither... Lol.

Hi Ya'll , wow how I've missed your beautiful faces!!!

Lets see, where to begin...
Well, K & the boy broke up. We let him in our home and lives (against Chris's better judgement). He was right, I was very wrong. The boy was sneaking over when I went to NM to see my fam & also on Tuesday nights locking himself in K's room with her when hubbs & I were at a class at church. K got busted, & asked him to come over & take his lumps with her, he said nope & left her out to dry-alone. She cries every night, has trouble eating & sleeping, has no life, no cell, has lost all her priveledges & is on complete lockdown... He has already asked another girl to Prom, & has pic's of himself with a girl already up on his facebook.

I'm very happy it's over. I can see now that he has no character & certainly didn't care about her. This was her first love. She really loved him. My heart breaks for her, & yet I am so thankful that God was faithful & removed him. She and I are fractured. She blames me, & I am very angry. But I am also prayerful & know that God is the God of restoration & forgivness. I cling to that. Also to the fact that He say's that they have the truth in them, have been brought up knowing , so they will return to it...

I have made an appt. w/ a christian councelor next week for her. S (other former wayward daughter, ok still wayward, but Im speaking it as tho it were... ;) & I saw him today. Awesome man of God and hugely annointed. I truly believe God is guiding my steps right now because I am at the very end of myself with all of this -with both of my babies. I'm sure I'll have more to say as the next few week's unfold round here...

So much has happened, and so much deep dark pain~ I am really working towards forgivness in some other areas too, inspite of their underserving-ness ( its a word, uh-hu it is...) . I am making friends now. For about the last 7 months I wasnt the least bit intertested in moving foreward because I went through such a painful season.... Maybe not interested isnt the right phrase. I was just stuck, didn't know how... But God is placing some really wonderful girlz in my life & I am finally at a place where I can open myself up to them. Boy, relationship stuff is work huh?? I know God had work to do in me about why it was that I let myself get sucked in to such disfunction. Looking back I see it so clearly now. How exciting to realize over and over that I don't have to fight this on my own. Any of it. He is here fighting, all I have to do is know who I am in Him & stay prayerful. Ahhhh. Do that with me, okay??... Ready, Now say " Ahhhhh" & realllllly let it out.
Feel better?? I know I do. Okay, its your turn. Whats been going on in your world. I am seriously anxious to hear from you. It can be anything you wanna share. Just know, if you need encouraging or an ear (eyes) I am your girl!!
I just love getting to know y♥u better!!!

LYLAS/B ♥ LA

15 comments:

Betty said...

You will be in my thoughts!! It must be unbearably hard to see your child suffer like that and have her blame you or be mad at you. But also knowing that she has to got through this to grow up.
I will be praying for you!

Jill said...

I am sorry that your daughter is angry at you but one day she will look you in your eyes and tell you that you were right all along. The first break up is always the hardest. She's a beautiful girl and there will be many more I am sure. She'll get through this, but she has to learn the hard way first unfortunatly! It's hard for us to see them go through this.

Lilly's Life said...

I think its great that your daughter has gone through this because hopefully she will know that this boy was just a nasty user. The poor thing she must be so heart broken. But its better she learns that there are people out there who do not care and have no empathy chip. What a coward he is. Keep strong and keep your resolve as to what is right and wrong. One day when she has grown up some more she will apreciate it. Oh it brings me back some years when my daughter was a teenager. Its tough, no-one tells you how to do it, on both sides.

As for getting into dysfunctional relationships I know exactly what you mean. I am learning and now have very definite personal boundaries. I walk away now. I do not want drama in my life. I wish you all the best. And your husband sounds a good support too. Take Care.

mayberry said...

I know just how hard this must be having been through something very similar myself, unfortunately. I will keep you and your daughters in my prayers.

Lori of I'm no super Mom said...

So glad that God is guiding your life! What a wonderful thing to step back and let God.

tollesons4him said...

I am so sorry your daughter is going through this tough time with the boy right now. I know you and her dad are doing what God wants you to do and guide her,love her, be there for her, and most importantly pray for her that is really all you can do. I went through this kind of thing when I was her age and I thought it was the end of the world but it all worked out and it will for her too.

HeatherPride said...

Well, I'm really happy about the boy being out of your daughter's life. I know it's painful and horrible for her right now, but I always remember some great advice I heard a long time ago: When someone shows you who they are - BELIEVE THEM!! Here's hoping that your daughter will start believing that the boy showed his true colors, loud and clear. What a schmuck.

Glad for you on the girlfriends!! We women have to have them in our lives. I am very grateful for mine!

Traci said...

Ah, first loves. What an incredibly hard time for her, and a difficult place for you. Luckily, I haven't found myself in the teenage dating world yet ... what a scary thing!

Lifting you in prayer today!

Thanks for all the sweet comments on my blog! Love hearing from you!

Emily said...

ahhh.... stinking boys... booo them! Gosh... I will be thinking of you and your lil girl! praying lots!!

Anna K. said...

I've always found it sucky that the punishments we have to dole out to our kids most of the time end up punishing us (parents) too. Seriously, it takes me longer to bounce back than my son these days!

Glad that the situation with your daughter was nipped in the bud before things went any further...and became any more painful than they are now.

Elaine said...

I just love it. God is faithful, and he will bring these girls back. I just love what you are doing for them. Oh how hard it is to mother young teens. I am so not looking forward to getting to where you are out. But look, God is using you, he is guiding you and you in turn can help guide someone else through this...

Peace and blessings,

Oh, I have been sick but it was just a little upper respretory thingy. I am feeling better. Thanks for the FB message.

Roz said...

Oh wow what a terd!! Oh that first love is a killer on the emotional psyche..poor girl..Love is a Battlefeild..haha in the words of Pat Benatar..


And it is hard to find friends that are true and don't play the "hot and cold" game..I have a few friends I can confide in and trust they won't run their mouth..but I could always use a few more..but it seems my life was so much better when I just hated everyone..lol

Kam said...

Hi my friend! Sooo glad to see you post and to hear that it's finally over with them. God will work to bring reconsiliation to you both. I will continue to pray. We've had a little trouble with our daughter too, but on an 8 year old level and it seems to be on the mend. This parenting stuff is so hard! But so worth it! Hang in there!

love and hugs~

kel said...

Oh, teenage heartache is the worst. I am so dreading it. Just give her all the love you can.

mimi said...

I ditto all of the comments above me. They are far wiser in their words than I could have been.

I just want you to know that you are not alone--about the issue with your friends. Oh girl, I can so relate! I read back to your Jan post. I have shed tears and felt anger for things that you described. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. What I have learned is that I will grow from these experiences.

Funny, you commented on my blog a while ago. Today I thought of you and came to read:)